Tuesday, 4 April 2017

Dads Hall of Fame - 04 - James Mower

It's the time of the month when we show you one of the amazing guys in the Badass Dad Clan, who do their best for their children, stand by their family and show the world that they are genuinely Badass Dads. This month we have our very own James Mower stepping up to tell his story:

James and Zoë
Tell us about the cute couple in the Photo:

My name is James Mower, from Bristol, fiancé to my beautiful lady Zoë and proud father of two boys George & Maxwell. Stepfather to three amazing step kids that I love as my own - Katelyn, Corey & Erin. We live a crazy life of comic book characters, dirty nappies, football and baby dolls. Electronic devices fill the gaps when behavior is good enough! While living in a household like ours it's tough to get the balance of spending equal time with each of the kids on an individual basis whilst maintaining a great group structure. When we can we like to get out for the day on trips whether that be the zoo or just to a park. While arguments are a steady diet for us, we always have fun with whatever it is we do. I wouldn't change my mad family for anything. The most exciting thing that has happened to me and my partner recently is the booking of our wedding, we've been engaged for over a year and decided to take the steps forward and get something booked, we will be tying the knot on the 1st of April 2018.

What is your favourite father/child activity or hobby?

In my spare time (of which I don't get much) I enjoy sitting down at my PC and playing video games, listening to music or watching films. Between all the chores of cooking, cleaning and rebuilding the house on a daily basis that we as a couple do, me and my partner try to make the most of the time when the kids are in bed to cuddle up on the sofa and watch TV series together before the inevitable pre school/breakfast insanity begins!

James, Katelyn, Zoë, Erin & Corey

What would you say is the greatest challenge of being a father?

Greatest challenge of being is a father is going the extra mile to spend time with them outside of working hours, it's so easy to just relax after a day at work and forget you haven't spent quality time with them and before you know it they're in bed and your ready to go back to work. Time is short, make it count! - Challenges of being a step father is a whole new kettle of fish, that's like balancing on the ledge of a building, discipline is very important but feeling like you could lose your bond makes you draw a fine line, I'm very lucky that the kids respect me enough that they know discipline happens because it needed too and they never hold it against me when I need to step in.

Knowing what you know now, is there anything you would do differently as a parent?

The things I would do differently knowing what I know now.... try and not believe all the horror stories, don't allow people to tell me how it should be done and just roll with it. Parenting is a natural habit that everyone is capable of and everyone has there own way of achieving it. Be yourself to your kids, don't be what people tell you to be.


What is your most treasured moment with your child/children so far?

I have so many treasured moments with all of the kids it's hard to just pick one but one that sticks out for me is when me and Zoë were in the hospital after just having Max delivered and the kids came to visit, to see the beautiful smiles of meeting Max was incredible, I just sat back and enjoyed watching all of them together.

Most Treasured Moment

What advice would you give to new first time fathers?

First time fathers..... don't panic! You are just as capable of being a parent as the ladies in your life! Don't let anyone tell you that your doing it wrong. Babies don't break unless you really drop them from a height, your not doing it wrong, your doing it your way and that is the most important way. Finding a partner which is supportive and your rock when times get hard and you feel useless is very important. I'm lucky to have found my soulmate in Zoë and she is the best person I could be standing next too raising our kids.

Erin and George

What do you have to say about Badass Dad Clan?

 BDC has been a god send for me, while for the most part I just sit back and read everything that is posted I do sometimes make a post and express what's going on. Tricky is an excellent leader of this team of amazing dads and he has created a safe haven for all of us, so for that I thank you mate. Never be scared to share your worries guys, we've all been through tough times, you may just find someone who can help you to open up and talk. Talking is very important.

Love to all the daddies in BDC - Stay badass!

James and Zoë

Thank you James for opening up and giving us a peek inside your fatherhood journey, The Badass Dad Clan wishes you and your family every happiness in the future and as you know, we'll always have your back.